Social interactions are part of our daily lives. We are always sharing information in a variety of ways, some of which are everyday conversations. This kind of conversation can make some people roll their eyes or want to get away quickly. But this superficial conversation is necessary in a society.
Ordinary conversation is present everywhere human beings are present. You can practice this kind of conversation with strangers you will never see again in your life. But to help you out, here are some ways to improve this kind of conversation, so it won’t be a burden.
1 – Show interest
The best way to hold a conversation is to show that you care about what the other person has to say. When someone doesn’t really care what the other person has to say, it’s shown in the conversation. Interest also opens up for the person you are talking to to tell you about them as well.
2 – Questions
To keep the conversation going longer and not be awkwardly silent, it is best to ask open-ended questions. That is, avoid asking yes or no questions that lead to dead ends. Open-ended questions give your partner an incentive to have a more detailed conversation with you. They lead more to conversations.
3 – Learning
A conversation can also be a learning point. If there’s a subject you’re not familiar with, it’s good to be honest with who you’re talking to. It’s always good to make the conversation a learning moment. And that means it’s good to let the other person talk more. Asking them to explain things to you makes the conversation last for at least a few minutes.
4 – Empathy
During the conversation, it is good to let your partner know that you can relate to the stories and feelings shared by him. For example, if you say that you have spent a few years abroad, perhaps you can count on your time abroad. And in that, you can ask the person to tell similar experiences he or she has had.
5 – Incentive
When you try to raise the self-esteem of the person you are talking to, people tend to hold more interest in the conversation. The best thing to do in an ordinary conversation is to try to make people feel a little better about themselves. It’s always good for someone to get out of a conversation feeling better.
6 – Practice
One thing, which is true, is that practice leads to excellence. And with the conversations, that is still true. Practice, whenever possible, either with the doorman of your building, with someone on the bus, or with anyone who seems friendly to have a conversation. And with practice, you will begin to feel more comfortable having a casual conversation.
7 – Examples
For almost everything in our life, we mirror ourselves to someone. When it comes to talking to people, this can also be true. So listen to comedians, presenters, people who have an ease in communicating. Try to remember how they behave in conversation , what questions they ask, and how they get people’s answers, even in silence.
8 – Rules
At school we used to make little rules to remember some subject. This knowledge we can bring to life. For example, in a conversation you might think of the word “ARE”. Each letter means one thing. The word anchor, where you try to find something in common with the other person. R to reveal, in the part where you will reveal something to the other person. And the encourage E, to encourage the other to share something too.
9 – Forms
The direction of the conversation may change as you ask the question. For example, instead of asking “what do you do”, it is good to ask “what are you keeping busy with these days”. The way you ask changes focus because you may be encouraged to talk about your job, family, hobby or anything else.
10 – Experiences
For a good start with someone you don’t know, it’s good to share something that happened to you recently. With this, the person is not put in the place that has to answer some question. She can only add something about the topic.